I’ll try to make this short. I was homeless living out of my van. I spent several nights at a friends apartment and was planning to get my own apartment but I don’t want to be alone anymore. So I struck a deal with my friend.
She lives in a 1 bdrm apt with her elderly mother who is very nice but is bipolar and has dementia, and her 18 yr old daughter who isn’t quite out of school yet. She’s graduating and may move to another state with her boyfriend.
Here’s my problem. The only bedroom is shared by my friend and her daughter. Her bipolar mom just sits in front of the tv and basically controls it. My friend won’t allow her to do anything else including get a little exercise for fear she will hurt herself. So controlling the tv is all she has control over. So I I understand that – to an extent. The only time I get to watch what I want is when her mom falls asleep in front of the tv……….. but tonight she woke up and after a few moments got up and took the remote control away from me. Then she turned the tv off! Even though it usually runs all night long! My friend controls her mother and I feel bad for the woman…………. so the tv is the only thing she can control. But she wasn’t getting back at her daughter by doing that – it affected ME not her daughter. If the tv bothers her how in the world can she stand the police scanner going 24/7 every single day and night??? It bugs me to death! And that mothertrucker can get LOUD!!! Ear piercingly loud.
My question is this: With the economy the way it is and the fact I don’t want to be alone am I really getting my money’s worth living this way? Or should I wait it out until next month and just get my own place…………. even if I’m alone.
ALSO: I should note that I joined a gym and will be weening myself into spending as much time there as possible and I have use of a public computer at the local college, not to mention the public library. I’ll just be alone again. Constantly.
But is paying almost all of her rent worth what little privileges I get…………… and I haven’t even mentioned the yelling and bickering that goes one off and on all day long!
All I can do is:
!. Sit on the sofa,
2.Sleep on the sofa,
3.Read if there is enough light, And in the evening there isn’t and that’s how I unwind to sleep sometimes.
4. Take showers using my own soap, shampoo etc.
5.. Minimal use of the kitchen – I can use the microwave.
I do have some access to the computer- but when her daughter is here I have less privileges. All showers and computer use has to be worked around her daughter. Her daughter gets first showers in the morning, use of the comp at any time of day………. that sort of thing.
Rent here is about 425.00 if that much. It was raised when her daughter came to live here. SO MY FRIEND ONLY PAYS 125.00 A MONTH Iin rent now!!!I pay the rest and have very little use of the electric or water. In fact the landlady pays the water bill. I only have two outfits of clothing to wear right now. So I don’t run the washing machine all the time.
I buy my own food and cigarettes too. Somehow I feel shortchanged and am considering getting an apartment on my own. Sometimes the tension here is too much she and her mother argue quite a bit. I joined a gym and maybe that will solve part of the problem…………. but not in the evening when I want to read or watch a tv show.
Please be honest with me – am I just a b*tch? Or under my circumstances do I have it better than I think I do…………. after all I am not homeless anymore, have a place to rest my head, clothes can get washed, a shower taken…………………
Tell what you really think.
under those circumstances its going to be awkward no matter what, it sounds like its a cramped house wth a cranky loud tv watching scanner on couch ridin granny, i really dont know who you could tune that out, the gym thing is a good idea, could you get an ipod or dvd player and watch movies? then get with the daughter to try and get the tv and scanner truned off at night as a curtosy to guests, You, no matter what the circumstances you are a guest and should be treated as such, do not be rude though or that overstays your welcome,
Just go get somewhere else. With four of you living in a one bed apartment, I’m not surprised that there is tension. There are three of us in a three bedroom house and we drive each other mad sometimes. Ask the landlady what else she’s got you could have for the same price.
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You keep repeating yourself…
And yea, please move out if things are driving you crazy.. after all you are paying quite a big sum of money here without the priviledge of even sleeping on a bed.
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I’d rather be alone then deal with a bi-polar woman who makes you miserable. If you can make it on your own in a month and get your own place, I say: get your own place and adopt a puppy. You’ll really never be alone then.
Where you’re at now does not sound like a fun living environment at all. But you really should be thankful that you’re not homeless anymore. Be thankful for what you have, and get out as soon as you can. Focusing on the negative aspects will just make you miserable, so keep your mind set on what you’re thankful for and do what you gotta do to get out.
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under those circumstances its going to be awkward no matter what, it sounds like its a cramped house wth a cranky loud tv watching scanner on couch ridin granny, i really dont know who you could tune that out, the gym thing is a good idea, could you get an ipod or dvd player and watch movies? then get with the daughter to try and get the tv and scanner truned off at night as a curtosy to guests, You, no matter what the circumstances you are a guest and should be treated as such, do not be rude though or that overstays your welcome,
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You put yourself in this mess, get yourself out. I don’t know how you all can live in such a small space…Find a place and get a roommate then you wont be alone.
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